‘My girlfriend has worn me down and I feel she wants to shape me into her corporate partner’Tell Me About It: ‘I had thought I wanted to marry her, but I have grave concerns about this as I think she is very controlling’Wed Aug 02 2023 - 06:01
‘My family don’t particularly like me and I despair about retiring and spending more time with them’Tell Me About It: A reader is not relishing retirement because of his troubled relationship with his wife and childrenWed Jul 26 2023 - 06:00
‘My husband has no interest in having a sexual relationship’Tell Me About It: ‘It has been more than five years since any intimacy took place. I feel entitled to look for my needs to be met elsewhere’Wed Jul 19 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m in my 30s and have grown out of “sessioning” but worry about sustaining important friendships’Tell Me About It: A lot of the most memorable times with friends involve going out and staying out well into the next morning, fuelled by recreational drugsWed Jul 12 2023 - 06:01
‘I was married for three decades. Why did I stay when I was so unhappy?’ Tell Me About It: I was married for 30 years and I wonder why I allowed myself to remain sad, unhappy and pretty much unheard for so longWed Jul 05 2023 - 06:01
‘We are at our wits’ end. Our adult daughter still lives with us and her boyfriend has started to settle here too’Tell Me About It: Their plans to go travelling, instead of focusing on their careers, concern us as the current situation will likely resume when they returnWed Jun 28 2023 - 06:01
‘My mum wants me back in Ireland, but now an Aussie woman is pregnant with my baby’Tell Me About It: I feel very conflicted: I do not want to repeat the past and have my child grow up without a dadWed Jun 21 2023 - 11:19
‘I have been married for 49 years, but now it seems to be on a rocky road’Tell Me About It: ‘I don’t know what to do. It feels like I’m not that attractive to her’Wed Jun 14 2023 - 06:01
‘I work for a company owned by siblings who don’t talk to each other. It’s ruining my life’Tell Me About It: ‘I have shares in the company and am very invested in it succeeding but my partner tells me that I should leave’Wed Jun 07 2023 - 06:01
‘We sleep in different rooms, haven’t had sex in four years and we bicker. I’m tempted to start casual dating’Tell Me About It: One of you needs to be courageous enough to demand that the relationship goes under the microscope so all possibilities are investigated before letting it goWed May 31 2023 - 06:01
‘I sit in my car at the top of his road to see where he is going and if he is still with her’Tell Me About It: My first real love announced last year he had resumed contact with an ex and they were giving it a second chance. I want him back - and I hope his relationship will failWed May 24 2023 - 06:01
‘I have met a wonderful man at group therapy, but my therapist and my sister are not happy’Tell Me About It: If this relationship is worth committing to it should be possible for you both to have patienceWed May 17 2023 - 06:01
‘I am terrified that things with my son will return to where they were almost 20 years ago’My son has a long history of depression but he pulled his life around. Now, though, he says he and his wife are going through a rough patch, he has moved back in with me and I can see signs of relapseWed May 10 2023 - 06:01
‘I just don’t get it, but friends and ex-girlfriends have told me I am dull’Tell Me About It: What you have discovered is that what you do is not necessarily what makes you interesting - it has much more to do with your interest in othersWed May 03 2023 - 05:31
‘Why does my husband act like this? An affair I could deal with’Tell Me About It: ‘I find this very strange - I feel that I need to discuss my husband’s crossdressing with him, but I am afraid it will change and possibly end our relationship’Tue Apr 25 2023 - 17:00
‘My mother has been an alcoholic for as long as l can remember and is abusive towards my father’Tell Me About It: My sibling and l are petrified something horrible is going to happenWed Apr 19 2023 - 06:01
‘I was hoping it was just a temporary break but my partner says it’s over for good’Tell Me About It: You must now focus on your wellbeing and take steps to build your life afreshWed Apr 12 2023 - 06:01
‘Our relationship has deteriorated since my wife got a big work promotion’Tell Me About It: I worry I will always lag behind her now, and she criticises me oftenTue Apr 04 2023 - 06:01
‘Romance and intimacy in our relationship has died. But is it better to stay together for the kids?’Tell Me About It: It is unlikely that a couple in a situation such as this will resolve it without some outside interventionWed Mar 29 2023 - 06:01
‘My son just remains in his room, very angry, always complaining of tiredness, eating junk, no sunlight, and just coding all day long’Tell Me About It: Some young men struggle with expressing emotions - fear, pain, loss and shame emerge as anger, rage and withdrawal, and this can be frightening for allWed Mar 22 2023 - 06:01
‘I can’t find fulfilment without being in a relationship’Tell Me About It: You might take this opportunity of singledom to draw breath and allow yourself to fully experience all the emotions arising in your lifeWed Mar 15 2023 - 06:01
‘My daughter is 26 and is so mean... she calls me names, she insults me’Tell Me About It: When she was 13, I became sick and had a late stage cancer diagnosis. She has referenced that in the past – that everything was great until l I got sickWed Mar 08 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m worried I ruined a stranger’s date night’Tell Me About It: Can we really go through life without upsetting anyone?Wed Mar 01 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m beating myself up thinking I ruined my daughter’s life by not being supportive of her decisions’Tell Me About It: I’m beating myself up thinking I ruined her life by not being supportive the first year with her decisionsWed Feb 22 2023 - 06:01
‘I’m pregnant, and for the first time my partner’s unpredictability is no longer attractive’Tell Me About It: What I liked about him when we first met is now a cause for concernWed Feb 15 2023 - 06:01
‘I don’t know what to do. I’ve never told anybody what happened and know nobody would believe me’Tell Me About It: ‘I was sexually assaulted by a man who is now very elderly and has dementia’Thu Feb 09 2023 - 11:34
‘I barely recognise our 17-year-old son any more, either physically or emotionally’Tell Me About It: I feel we have lost our lovely child during CovidWed Feb 01 2023 - 06:01
‘I find my husband’s tattoo repulsive. We now sleep in separate rooms and no longer have sex’Tell Me About It: ‘I do not want to tell my husband that I find his altered body to be vile. I spoke with a female friend, and she said I was just being selfish’Wed Jan 25 2023 - 06:01
‘I will inherit my aunt’s house, so my cousins don’t think they’re responsible for her any more’Tell Me About It: ‘My cousins point out that I also inherited my parents’ estate, and as my family were significantly wealthier than theirs, it seemed very unfair’Wed Jan 18 2023 - 06:01
‘My long-distance relationship is making me conflicted over my career’Tell Me About It: ‘I like this person but feel like I’m betraying my independence’Wed Jan 11 2023 - 06:01
‘I am losing my best friend and I don’t know how to deal with it’Tell Me About It: ‘She became less and less available but I don’t know why. I am grieving our friendship’Wed Jan 04 2023 - 06:00
‘My wife often reacts angrily when I try to talk to her about her drug use’Tell Me About It: ‘I sometimes can’t figure out her mood and feel I’m always on watch’Wed Dec 28 2022 - 06:01
‘I’ve moved into a shared apartment, and my new flatmate is getting on my nerves’Tell Me About It: ‘They are needy, nosy and quite immature, and say very inappropriate things’Wed Dec 21 2022 - 06:01
‘I fell for a woman who’s now gone from my life. How can I stop imagining a future together?’Tell Me About It: I feel as if I’m back to square one and am scared that nobody I meet again will compareWed Dec 14 2022 - 06:01
‘My daughter emigrated to New Zealand 17 years ago. I’m still devastated’Tell Me About It: ‘I feel sick inside and miss her so very much. I just want to be with her. What can I do? She FaceTimes me every night’Wed Dec 07 2022 - 06:01
‘My boyfriend left his wife, and now his children will not talk to him’Tell Me About It: As his children do not speak to him, can it be assumed that your relationship began before his marriage ended?Wed Nov 30 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m in a relationship with a woman who is 20 years older. That she will continue to age scares me’Tell Me About It: If she turns 60/65 or even 70, I have big doubts I would still be physically attracted to herWed Nov 23 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m dreading Christmas – it will be my first without alcohol since my teens’Tell Me About It: Possible shame over past drinking may cause you to shrink away from engagement with othersWed Nov 16 2022 - 06:01
‘All the caring I put into my parents – the time, effort and money – is gone, wasted’Tell Me About It: I feel I am just dragging my way through each day until I too become elderly like my late parentsWed Nov 09 2022 - 06:01
‘I still love her more than any other girl, including my girlfriend’Tell Me About It: Who to date? The one I love the most but who is less intentional about her life or the one I love less but who is very intentional about her life?Wed Nov 02 2022 - 06:01
‘My husband wants to expand our business, but at what cost to our family’s quality of life?’ Tell Me About It: ‘We have built such a good life. But my husband is about to risk what we’ve achieved’Tue Oct 25 2022 - 05:59
‘I am in my 70s and in a relationship with a man 10 years my senior. I am worried I will end up caring for him’Tell Me About It: ‘He has asked me to marry him and I find that I am upset by this as I feel I am being unkind in my thoughts’Wed Oct 19 2022 - 06:01
‘My partner hasn’t told his girlfriend about me. I feel like I’m the one he’s having the affair with’Tell Me About It: ‘He was in an open marriage when we met, and was forthright with me from the outset. I had long hoped he would be happy with just me’Wed Oct 12 2022 - 06:01
‘I am a frontline civil servant at a dead end in my present role. I would like a change’Tell Me About It: ‘I have become frustrated and disheartened with a job I have loved’Tue Oct 04 2022 - 05:31
Twenty ways to make your relationship more lasting, loving and lustfulDon’t lose hope when things get difficult. There is a lot we can do to keep love aliveSat Oct 01 2022 - 05:30
‘My obese husband drinks, smokes and has had a heart attack, but will not change his lifestyle’How can I get my obese husband who has had a heart attack to change his unhealthy ways?Wed Sept 28 2022 - 06:01
‘I am a gay man in a straight woman’s body. If I were to speak to my husband about this, it could end our marriage’Tell Me About It: I love my family, and I would not want to lose them for anything. Should I start the transition process? I really don’t know what to doWed Sept 21 2022 - 06:00
‘I’ve been struggling my entire life, mostly socially and with being a functioning adult’Tell Me About It: Social anxiety affects large numbers of the population so there is knowledge and help availableWed Sept 14 2022 - 06:01
‘My friend of 25 years appears distant, unhinged and enraged. What can I do?’Tell Me About It: He was always easy-going and incredibly outgoing, but as he nears his 50th birthday he is nothing like the person I used to knowTue Sept 06 2022 - 06:01
‘I am finding IVF very stressful, but I don’t think my husband cares too much about it’Tell Me About It: ‘I don’t think he understands how important this is for me and how much his comments and inaction makes me feel like I’m flying solo’Tue Aug 30 2022 - 06:01